This weekend is a blur, and like all weekends it passes by too quickly. My actual Sunday is more like watching BEHIND THE MUSIC: NAS re-runs, trashy reality TV, and mourning over the responsibilities I procrastinate. Hello, Xanax. But if I ruled the world…
My ideal Sunday would include reflecting on my life with some wine, a beach view and maybe, a guy…maybe. Kinda over the male species right now.
SO I don’t know how many of you Joonies are religious, but you all know where I stand on the issue (if not CLICK HERE). But you know what the most frustrating aspect of religion is?
Hot, religious guys.
Guys who actually prioritze God over their…..you know impulses
and I actually commend them for that, because if you don’t have principles in life, you probably don’t have much. BUT it does kill me when I happen to like one of you…
You see, I can respect a guy’s choice to be religious, if he can accept my lack of religion.
If I walk around in a miniskirt or shorts, I don’t want to see that look of judgment– that ‘ok, she’s a slut‘ label being branded on me. And I know the thought crosses their minds, and I know even if a religious guy and I have great conversation, I will never be ‘girlfriend’ material for him.
Now, is that principle or discrimination?
I think religion is archaic. But I will never look at a person praying, or practicing as ‘stupid’ or ‘unintelligent’.
But why is it that guys with religion can have the moral high ground to judge my value as a woman?
I dated a religious guy as I was just coming to terms with how I felt about my faith. He was a practicing Muslim, I was pretty anti-Muslim. He believed in an order to things, especially male-female relations: no premarital anything, marriage for life, the whole shebang! I wasn’t sure what I believed yet, but I really felt there was something more than following the path of every woman in my family for the past 6 generations. I knew my ultimate accomplishment would not be my family and I couldn’t pretend that I didn’t just want to be touched.
If I like you and you like me, and we’re not running some sort of bases…after awhile, I’m bored.
(and for any female that disagrees, your dating life has probably been short)
Liking a religious guy, is worse than crushing after the bad boy. The Bad Boy ultimately rejects you based on how fucked up he really is on the inside. Even if he says its about you, its about him. The religious boy rejected me because of me, and how I decided to put together my why’s and how’s at this age.
Even when he said it was about him, it was about me.
Its more hurtful when you know guys, who you willingly consider as potentials, put you in the ‘trashcan’ category of their minds.
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