Ayo for Yayo,
anyone see Farrah’s last post? Sh!T’s heated in the comments section, check it out.
And you know, she wrote back cause she’s a BOSS, and I respect her for it. If you don’t vibe with what we write- I respect that too.
& I respect it even more if, despite disagreeing, you keep reading.
Because that is why SEX&FESSENJOON exists. Not because I am obsessed with writing about how much I love sex, how I party, or how embarrassing my dad is.
If you can see past the sex talk, and the capslock/BOLD typing, you’ll see we’re trying to get this culture to start talking. It makes for some uncomfortable reading sometimes, especially if you’re not ready or haven’t had certain experiences yet but take it from a FORMER PRUDE-ITE: when you fall from Eden, you realize how natural “sin” really is.
This lack of discussion in Irooni culture, can lead to some destructive behavior and dangerous mentalities.
I can’t expect my grandma to understand my attitudes towards sex, she grew up in effing ESFAHAN (nesfejahanBITCHES) and she was married off at 12. That is not my life, and it clearly will never be–I’m still single a decade past 12yo. But how can I carry over her mentality to my new life in America, and the new demands of this culture–being unmarried, having a career, and an active social life?
I can’t and I shouldn’t
Do you still use Netscape Navigator?
I didn’t think so, and that is within the past 20 years.
I can accept the flaws in my culture, and at S&F we work to change it. Not by telling our JOONIES, to BULLSH!t & party, but by writing that we’re still Iranian, ALIVE, and well– while doing it. You don’t have to be our extreme, but we hope that our extreme can moderate the extremely conservative culture.
The day that a girl gets raped and is too ashamed to talk about it because she’s no longer a virgin, is a sad day for the Iranian-American culture.
Aside from feeling violated, she has this extra dimension of no longer holding the “jewel” called virginity, a concept which is outdated but for some reason, we REFUSE to shed.
That therapy is still a stigma? Despite all the baggage we may carry.
The fact that a guy who doesn’t make a certain amount of money has to strive for an image, or risk shame in the community.
Or how an unmarried girl past 30 years old, is torshideh, a sad and desperate creature we must all pity– EVEN if she is wildly successful. The worst part is that, she believes it too…that she should pity herself.
Or how ALL of us grow up and are so reluctant to question. We don’t have any CAJONES, and the people that do are “dirty hippies”. I don’t get it, some of us– girls included–refuse to move on from cultural traditions, and shed the judgment that feeds it.
We refuse to HELP us, HELP ourselves.
I’ve learned the most dangerous mentality of all is the love of ignorance.
Farrah & I don’t write because we want people to imitate our actions, but we’re doing it because no one has before, and without it the dialogue is missing a voice.
I love all of you JOONIES, who read, and take what we write as an opinion not a command, and don’t discount our voices because it doesn’t line up with the values you have.
Sickest song on REPLAY for me:
TWEET ME: @SAAGHI_JOON
Short& TO THE POINT,