25 Things Our Middle Eastern Parents Should Have Talked To Us About

Recently, I’ve been thinking of all the conversations I didnt have with my parents, because they were too busy telling me to clean my room and fix my B+’s.

And I compiled a list of those topics. Maybe some things need to be learned the hard way, but some of these should really find their way into a dinner conversation.

1. Being smart doesn’t substitute for working hard

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2. Condoms & Birth Control.

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3. It’s OK to fail

You can’t get an A+ in life.

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4. Try again after you fail.

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5. Not all Relationships have to end in marriage.

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6. Love who you want.

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7. but love them honestly and faithfully.

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8. Education is a gift you give yourself, not a box you checkmark.

do it for you

9. You can make a living off art.

do what you love

10. Getting a nose job won’t make your life better

or any plastic surgery for that matter. 

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11. Attitude can make or break you in tough times.

So hop-on that positive thinking, meditating yogi wagon quick. 

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12. What people think about you really doesn’t matter.

what people think

13. Pride and Ego are toxic.

pride

14. Judging others will never end well for you.

DONT JUDGE

15. Sex tapes are bad ideas

and naked pictures. snapchats. whatever.

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16. Sometimes you really do need to sit down, and shut up.

Stop lecturing and preaching. Just listen.

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17. Individuality is key.

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18. Know your worth.

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19. Why you should not compare yourself to others.

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20. Financial Planning.

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which also leads us to…

21. How to Budget.

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22. Being successful is never about money.

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23. Don’t be entitled.

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24. What comes easy, won’t always last.

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25. How to let go.

What else would you add to this list?

To FOB or not to FOB?

Hi Joonies,

Let’s talk about the advantages and disadvantages of dating FOBs.

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First, a basic definition to start off with so we’re all clear as to who this concerns:

F.O.B – (n) an acronym for “Fresh Off the Boat”, and refers to new immigrants to a country (mostly Western). Now commonly used to describe any person new to a country, who is not well versed with its language or culture (mainly Western). Can be taken as an insult, or a term of endearment (eg; pride of culture).”

PRO: They speak the mother tongue so well, and it gets you kind of hot when you guys are alone. And you know that amazing ‘Farsi/Persian‘ skills means a slam dunk with the parents.

CON: But then you realize that they have a Persian accent when they speak English, and that just makes you feel all self-conscious when you bring him around your friends. (and let’s be honest, you can never convince yourself that the accent is sexy.)

PRO: They seem to still have some old school culture and chivalry, and that makes you feel warm and lady-like– I mean, a man with manners who picks up the tab is always sexy.

CON: But some of that chivalry just turns out to be chauvinism and ….

PRO: In their lives, FOB guys have had it pretty rough and left everything they’ve known to come to a new country with a new culture. They’ve proved they can stand on their own two feet.– DAMN. #Respect

CON: BUT, they may be on the prowl for a woman just so she can replace his mom. He could be missing the warm meals and clean laundry. (watch out!)

PRO: Finally, there’s so much they can teach you about a part of your culture that you never got to experience because you’ve never spent more than a vacation’s time in Iran.

That, arguably, could be priceless.

CON: Or it could be exhausting because you’d have so much to catch them up on.

Hello, Pop Culture waits for no one!

So I guess the jury is out. With a FOB, you gain some -you lose some. It all comes down to a matter of personal taste (and patience), right?

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FOB/noFOB,

SAAGHI ساقی

Nothing Tastes As Good As Skinny Feels.

Hola,

2012 is winding down, and I almost can’t believe it. How does time fly? New Years is always an appropriate time for reflection (cliche but inevitable) and I’ve been thinking more about myself, 10 years ago… It might be because my Pandora is set to 90s music? But when you’re 18, you can’t really reflect on what it was like when you were 8.  Now I’m at that age, where I remember what it was like 10, 8, 5 years ago. I remember why I thought the way I did, and why I did the things I did. And with all those memories– I can’t help but feel weird. Is that what happens when you get old– your younger self starts to become a bigger shadow?

Jeez, can I please not get old? #fountainofyouth

Anyway, the more I think about Saaghi circa early 2000s, I realize I haven’t confessed something that really haunted/dogged me for most of those years: My Body.

It’s no secret that Persians are very vocal about weight — “topol” (chubby) is a word that’s just tossed around, almost endearingly, but for a 13 year old girl– that word is damaging.

At least that’s how I felt about it. As a kid, I was never aware of what my body looked like to others. But when I hit puberty, and I had chipmunk cheeks, I was growing boobs, and I was all sorts of awkward–well, I became very aware of what my body looked like from the outside.

People’s comments only reinforced my insecurities and by the time I got to high school, I had also eaten my insecurities. [Read more...]

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