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I recently happened to watch the romantic comedy, Guess Who for the first time when the following scene ensued.

“Would you open your mind, Percy Jones? Dante is a metrosexual.”

“A what?”

“He’s a straight man with taste.”

“No such thing. You might as well tell me he rode over here on a unicorn.”

I suppose most people watching the film took the scene lightly. Yet it got me thinking:

how many times do we insult or comment on personality traits of other people using sexuality and gender references?

At some point, we have all partook or grown accustomed to some comment to a man exclaiming, “don’t be a little bitch” or “you’re a pussy.”

Worse still, I have heard women in conversation complain that their potential dates had been “too gay.” Nobody knows just exactly what that means, but most guesses usually include quite a delusional perception of how men and women should “naturally” act.

And so it is really important to consider the real meaning behind these comments. First of all, no decent woman should accept that her anatomy becomes a tool of insult.

Being a woman is NOT an insult.

Moreover, all these comments that we have grown used to have normalized some very inaccurate and sexist notions about men and women. So if a man expresses feelings deemed as “too emotional” he is automatically told to stop acting like a girl whereas actually, the idea that women are raging hormonal emotion bags has been disproved for a while now. In 2013, we still categorize certain feelings and behaviours under “male” and “female” as opposed to understanding that sentiments are common in both and have nothing to do with what is in their pants.

Also, just as opposing discriminatory language against women in this case becomes necessary, so do does the “too gay” comments. Again, homosexuality is neither an insult nor an excuse to circulate fictitious notions about what it means to be homosexual.

This process is unjust to both men and women.

Think of the string of seriously dangerous behaviors that have been tied to what is acceptably “manly.” The list can easily include sexual assault and domestic violence, and that is the real danger of accepting certain “jokes” or seemingly trivial comments; they are the roots of more serious behaviour.

And since we have all been part of this process, sometimes innocently and without any actual sexist intentions, the key issue here is to recognize that it is a problem. So next time you hear any one of these comments, stay conscious of the discourse it comes from and make different choices.





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  1. kitty cat says:

    Amen, happy there is a post on this finally.

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