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Feminazi Stole My Money

A few weeks ago, in a random conversation at work, a colleague of mine was animatedly recounting her experience at a women’s rights organization in Egypt. The conversation piqued my interest. So I said,

“Where did you work? I’m very interested in Feminism.”

“Oh no, I’m not a feminist, I’m not radical!” she said, affronted.

“Radical?” I asked, puzzled, “Not a feminist, why? Do you just have political reservations on identifying with the term?”

“No, I don’t care about that” she said in a bizarrely indignant tone, “I’m a Muslim women’s advocate.”

I think my eyebrows had literally reached my hairline in exasperation.

What the fuck is a “Muslim women’s advocate?”

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The women proceeded to lecture me about the many lessons we can all take about women’s equality under the reign of the Prophet Mohamed (PBUH). I know my own religion woman, I don’t need you to educate me, I thought, that makes you a Muslim feminist.

So ok, most of us have already reached the understanding that Feminism suffers from many political issues. And we’re also well acquainted with the stereotypical, done-to-death assumption that you can’t be Muslim and Feminist.

But why is feminism radical and therefore not something to admit affiliation to?

The question hit me harder some time later when a Twitter idiot decided to troll my every post by calling me a “Feminazi.”

Sweetheart, who has feminism mass murdered or invaded?

What kind of idiot could possibly coin that term? As it turns out, many Internet users are happy to use the term.

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That in part, is because feminism is often framed as a bra-burning, man-hating movement. If you’re a feminist, you must of course, refrain from any feminine clothing, absolutely boycott makeup and grooming and pledge a lifelong hatred of men. I have actually heard all of those things aired around like it’s divine truth.

Well here’s the radical notion at its most basic sense: Feminism means equality for women, period.

So, if you believe that you’ve had a certain ungrounded fear of relating to the term or if you encounter a dear colleague or random stranger with a self-proclaimed phobia of feminism, you know the basics:

–  Feminists don’t need to “hate pink”- we just have a problem with standardized ideals of beauty.

–  Feminists are “attracted to men”- we just won’t let a man sit on his lazy ass and boss us around.

Feminists are not “the man of the relationship”- meaning that we don’t get our men to sign legal-binding documents pledging to entrust every decision in the relationship to us.

We are happy to share decisions, with our feminist boyfriends or husbands…

…because by the way, a man who believes in equality for women is also a feminist.

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And the list is endless.  I’m happy to entertain a meaningful discussion about the issues facing the movement, because it, like all others, is not perfect.

But please, be careful what we internalize as “critique” of what is nothing more than a name for the morals we hold.

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YASMINE یاسمین
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  1. yasmine, given how feminism has evolved in our most modern times, and how most courts and legal systems in the civilised world punish men far harsher than women, for equal crimes and criminality, is the men’s rights movement a necessary counter-balance to the perception of the feminazi kabaal that seems to rule with an invisible hand? especially when women have so many support systems (governmental and non-governmental which usually have federal funding) and much lower conviction rates when compared to men?

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