I need to pick your brain about dating white girls.
So far, there’s been so many cultural differences that I’ve experienced living in Canada; like, I got totally baffled when to say hello to people and when to not! I find it ironic that people say “good morning” in the streets and some don’t even reply to my “hello” in the same class (it’s not like I’m hitting on them, I just like to be friendly)!
So I kinda lost my confidence when I try to make a conversation with white people, even though they are pretty friendly and warm (not always of course).
Well, I’d better give you some details about myself; I’m in my early twenties and brown like most Persians, with big light brown eyes, a button nose and peculiar Persian eyebrows (not that bushy)! I’m fit as a fiddle (I’m a badass triathlete) working out twenty plus hours weekly to race. But I’m such a wimp when it comes to asking white girls out!
Even though they sometimes come to me and start a conversation like “wow, you swim so fast” blab blab blab! Here are other things you should know:
First, I don’t have so many chances to meet white gals because I work in my lab reviewing papers, and doing experiments 9-5 pm. If I can find some time, I would rather scoot to the university’s pool for a swim or go for a run! Actually, that’s the best part of my day to take my mind off those friggen papers! I’ve approached girls in the pool before – introducing myself, et.c and usually the first question that comes up is “where you from” and well, you know the story…
What do you think is the first picture that comes to mind when you hear that somebody is from Iran?
I feel like girls always step back when they hear what my nationality is (but this is still under investigation).
Also most of my peers are either Chinese or Persians! (why not dating Persians? That’s another story)! Lastly, I’m not that witty when blathering in another language because of the cultural differences! White people do not get the drift of our jokes, and vice versa! Admittedly, I’m lousy at hitting on girls in my native language let alone in English… as my second language.
My roommate made the suggestion to go to a club, dance a little, and get some numbers. I don’t believe that you can find a girlfriend in a club or pub! But, I gave it a shot desperately and this is what happened at the club:
It was Friday night and I was with my two friends. Every time I asked a girl to dance, they said “not gonna happen?”
What did they think was going to happen by dancing with me? Did they think that I was just going to pick them up and take them to my place? I’m not dying for a hook-up. I want to find a long term relationship!
So please help me out! Is the best way to meet girls by lining up at these clubs? Given the cultural differences, how can I meet some girls and ask them out (so they will say yes)?
I know the routines for asking somebody out back in Iran, but I am a little afraid that it’s not the same here! What should I do?