HAPPY FRIDAY! Finally, a three-day weekend. Its been too long. I’ve had an especially shitty week. On top of work (ugh), I had to deal with post-relationship distress.
You see, not too long ago, my boyfriend dumped my ass because I got a job before him. I mean, I get it… to an extent. Here I am, new in town, and I pull a job at one of the most prominent companies in the U.S. My dream job. He has his Master’s degree… and has been looking for a job for almost two years, with NO lead in sight. Its dumb luck really (or I’m just that great).
ANYWAY, when he breaks up with me, he says he doesn’t want to be with anyone until he can get his professional shit together. Okay, I accept.
Last night, he says he’s dating someone new. STILL NO JOB IN HAND. What does she do?
She went to his high school in some butthole town in a random ass state, and is now a Kindergarten teacher.
I have nothing against teachers, because where I would be without them? Oh yeah, on the streets. But here is my problem:
He picked someone that would never be his competition. She will always be his subordinate, he will always be higher than her even if he has a hard time finding a job- she ain’t got shit on him.
But me? I’m different– I’m not like that. I will never put a man before my professional career and that’s just how I was raised. Was I supposed to turn the job down because he might break up with me? NO.
Here is the deal: if you’re really a MAN, then no matter what life throws your way- you should be able to handle it. Even if your girlfriend or wife does better than you professionally. Screw this bullshit stereotype that teaches us that MEN have to be the successful ones.
Even on TV, you watch these lame ass shows about women who are the top dogs at their company yet they’re always alone. And for some reason, they’re always depicted as unhappy.
Men are taught to be chauvinistic pigs.
They learn early in life that if they can’t be the breadwinner then something is WRONG with them. And if women are killing it in their careers, then they’re a heartless bitch.
It is NOT our job to be submissive… it is NOT our job to be VIRGINS, it is our destiny to improve. This stigma that we have to be less than our men is the age old story, and I am fucking tired of it.
Its time for a new story.
I’m tired of hearing about how couples like “Seal and Heidi Klum” got divorced because she was doing better in her career than him. Or that Oprah isn’t married because she’s just “too successful“– when in reality: MAYBE SHE JUST SUCKS IN BED! I’m tired of hearing that if I choose to excel at my job, then I might never have a family.
But most of all, I’m tired of the fear.
Do I have to be in a stagnant position just to ensure that my personal life is successful?
How does that make any sense?
ESPECIALLY as Persian women, we are automatically supposed to know how to cook, sew and be child raising professionals. On top of that, we are expected to remain sexually inexperienced. Why? Well that’s what womanhood is right? Its “CUTE” to be a virgin. Guys like that.
Guys want us to be innocent with no job in hand and an untouched hole. What a bunch of gender bias bullshit.
Dear ALL MEN (especially Persian men),
If you want to be THE MAN, the sexy, confident, successful man that we all want at our side, then you should be happy for your woman… don’t overcompensate by choosing someone below you. Be with someone who challenges you, motivates you. Its the twenty-first fucking century- it ain’t 1945, so stop acting like a douche.
And women: Excel. Be motivated. Don’t just be good at your job, be great at it. Its a new time- as women, we are all standing up and fighting for our place. Even women in Iran are fighting to make a difference– women in Iran attend University at a higher rate than men do. It was the women of Iran who first organized the Green Movement and motivated the people to go to the streets to FIGHT for what they believe in.
So ex boyfriend, I’ll leave you with this– I hope you marry Miss Kindergarten, really I do. She’s MY subordinate, and you really don’t deserve to be with anyone at my level. sorryboutit.
Its time to stop being a little bitch.
MAN THE FUCK UP PEOPLE.